I feel terrible. What can I do about this ...?

I feel betrayed by my own mother. See, she lied to me for a year and some months about her not having enough money to buy food. So throughout that whole year the only little money ($3,000) that I had been trying to save to myself a car I spent on food for her and my two little sisters. I bought my little sisters clothes, shoes, and school materials. Two days ago while completing an application for a scholarship they asked for the total income of last year. I asked my step dad how much he made last year and he said that he made calculations which totaled to $41,000. The only bills my mother pays are $650 for rent and $200 total in bills. I feel so bad right now. She lied to her whole family. I don’t care having spent my money to feed my two sisters but my own mother always puts her self and money before her own family. She doesn’t even take care of my little sisters. She doesn’t cook, clean, or help them with their homework. She does nothing but watch TV all day.

I feel terrible. What can I do about this ...?
Is there any way the school or a community organization might sponsor a fundraiser for your sister? I'd talk to her teacher and principal about that. They may be willing to help organize something as it sounds like your sister is an outstanding student. I commend you for the care you give your sisters. You are proving to be a good role model to them and giving them the care it sounds like you didn't have as a child. Just because you think you know how much financial obligation your mom has in bills, there may be something she's hiding..... I know of a couple who suddenly went from being fairly well off to the husband finding overdue/unpaid bills, maxed out credit card notices, etc. He never did(or at least we never heard) find out what his wife had been spending on.... Is your step father the father of your sisters? If he's not their biological father, I'm not sure his income could factor into their eligibility for scholarships.... I'm sorry you've been hurt by Mom. I'd let her know that you love your sisters and want the best for them. You will make the sacrifices on THEIR behalf, but you will NOT give her money. Should they need clothes and such, you will buy it yourself(it's ok to go to thrift stores and discount markets btw), but you will absolutely NOT GIVE HER MONEY!!!





Best of luck to you and your sisters....
Reply:i think we are sisters. my mother was also a money grubbing *****.


all you can do is help yourself and make a good life. if you choose to help your sister do not ever expect to be paid back.


personally i told my mother to go to you know where..


she is dead now and i truly don't give a sh!t.
Reply:It sounds like abuse has occurred here.I would talk to CPS for advice. Your sister may still be eligible for the scholarship.Just explain the situation to the teacher and she might be able to help you figure something out as this is an unusual situation.
Reply:Are you sure she isn't putting some money away for retirement? Is she paying off student loans or other credit cards you don't know about? If things were so bad, she could have applied for food stamps.





I had a big problem with my mom, much worse than this, and I confronted her about it. She's stubborn and didn't admit she did anything wrong. She acted like a total jackass. I would confront her about it and if she acts immature about it, that shows you her TRUE character. If that's the case, emancipate yourself and say, "mom, I'm not helping you anymore, you took advantage of me."
Reply:You are a great person, sweetie. It seems like you're trying to make up to your sisters where your mom was supposed to be. I wish I could say the magic words to wake your mom up and see how much she's hurting you and your sisters. I know this is going to seem like really strange advice. But I have on three occassions e-mailed Dr. Phil and all three times they have e-mailed me or called me. I don't know if I just so happened to give them the right topics they were looking for or what, but they called me every time. So, you never know, give it a try. If he takes your story, he'll set your mom straight.



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